It’s Not Enough to be Present – Children Need Our Presence

When I had children, I decided that I was going to stay home so I could give them what I felt they really needed – my time. As they’ve grown older, I think I’ve forgotten what it really means to give someone your time so this is a timely reminder for me…

In the FISH! Philosophy, they say “Be There”

As Mac Anderson and Lance Wubbels say, “To a child, love is spelled T-I-M-E“…

Recently, when I asked G1 what he wanted from me, he replied, “Spend more time with me on the weekends.”

Initially, I didn’t get it. I had spent the entire weekend with the boys so what more was he asking for? What he wanted was special time – dedicated time – where we do things together as opposed to just being together (if that makes sense). Let me clarify… we can spend the entire weekend together running errands and that would still be considered spending time together even though it really isn’t. Really spending time together is having “time in” together and that’s something we haven’t really been doing for a while.

Our children don’t want us to be present, they want to feel our presence.

If only I knew…I should never hear your voice again. I would cherish your every word.” – Lance Wubbels

Published by Shen-Li

SHEN-LI LEE is the author of “Brainchild: Secrets to Unlocking Your Child’s Potential”. She is also the founder of (a website on parenting, education, child development) and (a website on Right Brain Education, cognitive development, and maximising potentials). In her spare time, she blogs on Forty, Fit & Fed, and Back to Basics.

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