Second Child Syndrome

There is a tendency for parents to treat the second child with less reverence and to offer less attention than they did with their first.  Whether this is in part due to being more comfortable with the idea of being a parent and worrying less over trivial matters, or to the loss of the novelty factor of having a child, or the division of attention since there is another child to attend to (the older one), or perhaps just a combination of everything, the fact remains, the second child gets less of everything.  There is less attention and less care – let’s face it because it’s true.  We don’t rush over to the doctor over every tiny spot we see.  We certainly don’t freak out over germs and the need to sterilise everything in sight.  We also don’t take a snap shot of every movement frankly because we’ve been there and done that.

Being a second child myself, I try to make it a point to bring out the camera and take photos of Gareth but even I have to be honest and admit that I am not as diligent this time around as I was when I had Gavin.  I guess the point about the photos really sticks out because I remember looking through our family photo albums as a child and wondering why there were so many more photos of my brother than there were of me as a baby.  There were dozens of snaps of my brother taking a walk around the park and doing all those “firsts”, and well, quite frankly, all I had were a few baby snaps and the birthday pictures.  I don’t want Gareth growing up to experience the same thing.

Recently, I came across a photo studio that featured pictures of babies taken in the Anne Geddes style.  It was on display at a shop called “Picture Company” in 1Utama (and soon to open in The Gardens).  They appear to have originated in the Philippines but they are sprouting up fast in Malaysia.  They focus on portraits for families in a fun way.

Personally, I prefer the work of a couple of other freelance photographers – Jason Victor and Anna Rina.  The only reason I would consider using a studio like The Picture Company is purely for their props.  I haven’t decided what we’ll do yet, but I think I would definitely like to consider a round of professional photographs for the kids.  This would appease my guilt for being rather neglectful in taking photos of Gareth.  Of course I would include Gavin, too, because I can’t hurt his feelings by having only fun pictures of Gareth.

So what do you think?  Jason, Anna or The Picture Company?

Published by Shen-Li

SHEN-LI LEE is the author of “Brainchild: Secrets to Unlocking Your Child’s Potential”. She is also the founder of (a website on parenting, education, child development) and (a website on Right Brain Education, cognitive development, and maximising potentials). In her spare time, she blogs on Forty, Fit & Fed, and Back to Basics.

7 thoughts on “Second Child Syndrome

  1. I confess I was swayed by The Picture Company because the babies look so adorable. Then again, it’s the subject matter rather than the photography that appeals to me, I guess. And, like I said, it’s mostly for the props – but I guess that’s kind of pretentious, no? :-p


  2. I’m a little partial to picture company in part because I was raised that way. My father runs his own photography studio and is a core believer that if you want pictures, you take them yourself, if you want portraits, you seek a portraiture. He notes the history of family portraits before film was developed, and they were never accurate replications of people, they were designed to be almost more beautiful fantasized “what we’d like to be” not “what we are”. With the digital age, it is easy to capture “what we are” it is not easy to create an image of “what we’d like to be”. My father was also very good friends with Anne Geddes here in America and most of our child portraits were fantastical and prop based. I love them as an adult! I was born in 85 so there are tons of snapshots and home “as we were” pictures, but the portraits of my sister and I dressed like fairies swing from flower rope vines at ages 7 and 5 are images that I remember having a lot of fun taking and that I love seeing hanging on my father’s wall when we go visit. I know we are in America and not accessible to you, but I am showing you a link of my father’s site to show you the kinds of mix between reality and portraits that he designs his business around.


  3. Thanks for your thoughts, Clarissa. Maybe I will go the way of the Picture Company. You’re right – taking pictures with props is not something we can do on our own and it would be something fun for the kids to look back on. Then again they’re boys, so I’m not sure they’ll appreciate them when they’re 18, but heck – I certainly will! 😉

    Thanks for the link to your father’s website – they look like fun pictures.


  4. i would choose picture company as well! i saw their studio in 1U and also the soon-to-be opened one in Gardens. i must admit that it’s not easy taking photos of my kids esp. my son who’s very active. when my girl came along… we took much less photos….
    do go for the photoshoot and give us all a review here!

    coupons received with thanks!


  5. Two out of three – The Picture Company it is then… Thanks for all the feedback. I really appreciate it. I can never decide these things on my own and hubby’s always like, “Whatever you prefer…”


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